When I say enjoy it, I mean the whole process, not just the reception. Set your budget early and stick to it. That way you can rid yourself of that stress. Have fun picking out decorations a tasting wedding cake. The whole process can be a blast if you want it to. As for the reception, you have to enjoy that. Don’t worry about keeping up appearances. If you want to skank to “A Message to You, Rudie” by the Specials, by all means, make it happen!!